In our Small Group last night we were talking about sin. One of the topics we got to was when we have been personally sinned against.
A great friend, Greg Vest, brought up a point that I have not thought much about. He asked the question, “When someone sins against you do you MAINLY confront them when their offense to you or are you truly more concerned with their sin against God?”
David puts it this way when he had an affair with Bathsheba and then killed Uriah, “Against You, You only, have I sinned and done what is evil in You sight.” (Ps. 51:4a)
So here are some questions to think through (also in this line of questioning I am assuming the person is a Christian, although I know many confronting discussions happen with people who are not Christians)…
1. When someone sins against you and you realize that it is going to require a dialogue that confronts the sin, are you more hurt that the person has sinned against God MAINLY or you?
2. If we would hurt more that the person sinned against God, how would this practically change the conversation we will have? (i.e. how would you ask questions differently? What questions would you ask? etc.)
3. If we are mainly about restoration in our discussions (2 Cor. 7:10), does this change how you normally confront a fellow Christian?