I have been reading through Andrew Murray’s book, Humility. One part that he talks about has been quite refining for me today.
Let us consider how our lack of love, indifference to the needs and feelings of others, even sharp comments and hasty judgments that are often excused as being honest and straightforward, are thwarting the effect of the influence of the Holy Spirit on others. Manifestations of temper and touchiness and irritation, feelings of bitterness and estrangement, have their root in nothing but pride.
Many times I will use the excuse of “I am just being direct.” The problem is that Paul and Peter made the idea of delivering words “in gentleness” (Eph. 4:2, 1 Tim 6:11, 2 Tim. 2:25, 1 Pet. 3:15) a big deal. Don’t get me wrong, we need to be clear. The problem is that many times “clear words” do not coincide with gentleness and graciousness for me.
I need to change. Thank goodness that gentleness is a manifestation of the fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22-23). I need to be much more gentle in my tones while being “straightforward”.
Do you struggle with this?
How have you worked through this issue?